Dating, on your terms
Nudge puts you in control. Search for what you want, discover who wants it too.
In every other area of life, you can search for exactly what you want. Why should dating be any different?
Swiping gives you no control. You see what an algorithm decides, one face at a time, with no way to express what you actually want.
Nudge puts you back in control. Share a Spark, a date idea, and find someone who wants the same thing. When two people want the same first date, there is nothing left to negotiate. Just two people who already agree on the plan.
Two ways to discover
Two pathways. Same control. Search on your terms, or let us surface the best overlap.
Describe who you are looking for in plain English. Our AI understands intent, not just keywords, and shows you why each person matches.
We surface the Sparks most compatible with your interests, location, and what you are looking for. One at a time. Pass or reach out.
Getting started
Showcase your interests and what you are looking for. Verified people only. No anonymous accounts.
Post a date idea or activity you would love to do with someone. Pick a category, set the vibe, and describe the plan.
Browse Sparks, find one you love, reach out. You already agree on the plan. Now just go.
Anatomy of a Spark
Every Spark is a date idea — specific, intentional, and ready to go. Here is what one looks like.
The golden hour views from the trail are unreal. Bring a thermos of something warm and let's watch the fog roll in over the bridge.
Questions & answers
A Spark is a date idea or activity you share with the Nudge community. It could be "someone to try that new ramen spot with" or "sunset hike at Lands End." It is how you tell people what you want to do, not just who you are. When two people post or respond to the same kind of Spark, that overlap is the strongest signal that a real date will actually happen.
When you find a Spark that excites you, send a Reach Out, a short and thoughtful message to the person who posted it. If they accept, you are connected: full names are revealed and you can start messaging to finalize the plan. Because you already agree on what to do, the conversation has a built-in purpose from the start.
Most apps start with a face and a bio, then leave you to figure out what to actually do together. That is where ghosting and shallow conversation come from. Nudge starts with an intention, a Spark. You already know what your first date looks like before you even match. And unlike swipe-based apps, you can search and filter on your own terms, just like you do in every other area of life.
Privacy is core to the Nudge experience. Full names are only revealed after both people have accepted a connection. This encourages you to focus on what actually matters: the plan, the interests, the compatibility. Not a name.
Nudge will be free to join with core features available to everyone. We are focused on building the best experience first. Join the waitlist to be among the first to try it when we launch.
Early access
You already know what you want. Share it, find someone who wants it too, and go.
Free to join. Launching Spring 2026.